I am someone that has done a bad job of being a friend to you, and I am pretty sure I made you feel alienated and even hurt by my lack of communication, despite us never being very close. I am in a situation where I don't know what to do. I know no one else but you to go to for advice on these topics (BDSM and polyamory), but I feel guilty and wrong to approach you about it given my failures towards you in the past. I don't want you to feel used. I just don't know who else to talk to about this.
AnonymousI think I know who you are. I’m sorry to hear that you’ve been feeling guilty about this, since I’m actually having the opposite problem; I have enough people in my life right now that I sometimes feel overwhelmed by how many friends I have and don’t know if I can spend enough time with everyone. Besides, you’re not obligated to like or spend time with anyone you don’t want to, including me. You’ve got your own life going on. And my needs for intimacy and companionship are being amply met.
I’d be delighted to answer your questions, whoever you are! Go ahead and ask.
